I have been engaged for 2 years and a few months now, and we have not planned anything. We kind of decided to sort ourselves out before we add any wedding stress – like, yes, we will be marrying each other, that is decided, but anything else we’ll let you know when we know. This year, we have had 3 weddings around us, which is amazing for the amount of people that we know and speak to, and I started getting a glimpse into what I actually want for my own wedding. Full disclosure I had never been to a wedding before this year, so any reference I had was from TV and TV weddings NEVER go well.
And so, my wedding planning started slowly, mainly with me acknowledging what I didn’t want first. Then we went to the wedding expo – I must say my fiancé was a star at this thing, unlike the fiancés who were hiding out at the beer tent – and we got an even bigger glimpse of how we wanted our wedding to be. Clearly, I was never the girl who dreamt of her wedding day, and at times was known to proclaim that I would never get married since I never wanted to “belong” to a man and I liked my independence. But when the man you love is on his knee with a gorgeous ring in his hands and he’s not only asking you to promise yourself to him forever, but also promising HIMSELF to you…. Well, those anti-marriage vows kinds of flew out the window.
Ok, so we found a ton of ideas at the wedding expo, venues, photographers, caterers, lawn games (yes please!), and even cute leather suspenders that I reallllllly thought we should incorporate – he says no, we’ll see – but the one thing I battled to find was a dress. I found one that was close to my ideas, which was soft, flowing and lacy. I even planned on going for fittings since I thought it couldn’t hurt to see what the dresses look like on me (I don’t wear dresses), but ended up cancelling the fittings because I realised a fitting with no wedding date was strange.
And that ended my dress search – until last month, when I received a free bridal fitting at Bridal Aisle in Milnerton. I figured I could go and try on a few dresses and finally find my style at least so that when it came time to try on dresses for real, I would have an idea on what to look for. Now, for those who have never tried on dresses, you’ll understand when I say I had no idea what to expect… I had however read about things like make sure you’re wearing underwear that you’re comfortable to stand in, as in no G-string etc.
I had a super early booking, 8am! And I am so not a morning person, so I wasn’t sure if I would actually enjoy the fitting or if I would try on a couple dresses and rush out of there for my second cup of coffee.
Thankfully, I was pleasantly surprised. We were greeted at the door by the friendly ladies at Bridal Aisle, offered coffee almost immediately and laughing and chatting before we had even sat down! The atmosphere was amazing, the decor is so inviting and the smell of coffee is the cherry on the top. When we got down to the fitting business, I was perhaps a bit hesitant, I saw one dress that caught my eye and had hoped there would be more.
We tried on different type of dresses though, and then I put one dress on that I really didn’t think was my style. But it fit so well! And it looked really good! I wasn’t sure… buying the dress before we even set a date seemed insane, but I knew that if I left this dress behind, it wouldn’t wait for me to make up my mind. I hummed, and I haahed. So much so that I got a prep talk from the consultant – plus she made cry (but in a good way). Eventually, with the support of my Mom-in-Law to be, I walked out with my wedding dress. My fiancé was most likely surprised since I had told him that I wasn’t going to buy the dress, just look. And we still don’t have a date, but I do have a goal to lose a bit of weight to fit nicely into the dress, and at least when the day does come, one question I won’t be asking is “What am I going to wear”
So – if you are on your way to try on wedding dresses, don’t worry, it’s not as scary as it seems, pick a nice place that gives you coffee and cake!! And don’t be surprised when you walk out with an unplanned wedding dress.
P.S I wont be able to show the dress I actually chose of course until we actually get married!!